Now that you are more aerodynamic, do you run faster?
I run much SLOWER at the moment, thanks to the sensitivity. Having that thing bashing about would be hell.
But when it's all healed up... who knows...
Better get some flames tattooed on it.
Rub it with Cheetah blood.
Yeah! then you sh... wait what?
Sorry to hijack the thread with my own story, but I believe I have something relevant to tell. Warning: explicit. The following story is 100% true.
Dear OP: Whatever you do, be very VERY careful with your recently circumcised penis. two years ago, I was in the same situation. Only my case went horribly wrong.
I was 23 years old with the same condition - phimosis. Not as severe as some of the pictures you see online, but there was also this pinching feeling when I had sex, so I decided to get circumcised.
The doctor had told me to relax, it would be a relatively painless procedure and I could walk home from the hospital after less than an hour of surgery. So I walked into the OR optimistically.
Turns out, the procedure hurts quite a bit. For anesthesia, they stuck a huge syringe into my penis 4 times. Each time felt like... well, a big needle being stuck into your penis. When they started cutting, I still had a lot of feeling down there. The feeling when they cut off the foreskin was... how can I describe it? The pain itself wasn't as bad as the knowledge that what you felt was a part of your body slowly being severed. Horrible. Then they started sewing me together and kind of folding and fusing together the skin-- how exactly it works, I couldn't see. It hurt a lot. It hurt a lot in my penis, and the awareness of that made the time ten times worse.
When they were done, the bleeding wouldn't stop. The doctor mentioned that I took unusually long to stop bleeding and asked me whether I had taken any aspirin or something earlier. I didn't. Well, they put my penis into a tight bandage and sent me home saying the pain would stop soon.
It didn't.
Soon, it started to hurt really, really badly. They hadn't even given me a painkiller. It was terrible. At the that time, I actually did an AMA "I am a 23 yo male who just got circumcised" or something. It never made the front page though. And I had no idea the worst was yet to come.
At the time, I had just met a girl that would become my new girlfriend. Despite the mess in my pants, I met her a few evenings in a row. And we would make out. And I would get an erection.
I had never known this kind of pain. Every time I got turned on, it was torture. My penis would also start bleeding into the bandages, which I would have to change several times a day. Sometimes they would bleed through my pants and I didn't notice in time, then looking down in public to discover I had red spots between my legs. And yet, the worst was still to come.
I pulled through the make-out session with my girlfriend-to-be like a champ. The pain got a bit better over the course of a few days. The bleeding would become less frequent. I later learned I was never supposed to bleed at all. To conquer the bleeding, I always wrapped my penis in toilet paper as well as putting bandage-pads into my shorts. Keep this in mind.
At first I had evaded sex with my new girlfriend, but as time progressed it was hard to make up excuses, and I told her the embarrassing truth a week after surgery. She was okay with not being able to have sex for another 3 weeks. But we still made out a lot, and in the heat of the moment she would sometimes dry-hump me a bit.
One night when she was dry-humping me, I felt a sudden sharp pain in my penis. Keep in mind that that happened all the time when I moved the wrong way or accidentally brushed against something with my crotch, so it wasn't unusual. Still I told my girlfriend to stop and we went to sleep.
The next morning when I woke up, I felt extremely weak, and my crotch was aching heavily.
When I pulled back the sheets, my entire sheets and shorts were SOAKED with blood. Blood everywhere. The bed was full of it.
I let out a loud "AAAAAAAH!" and jumped up, running to the bathroom. As I was running down the hallway, blood was dripping from my shorts to the floor, leaving red spots on the carpet.
In the bathroom, I frantically tore down my shorts. The bandage pads fell off, and I was looking at my penis, completely wet and red from blood, and what looked like chunks of torn skin hanging down all over it.
Those were the worst few seconds of my life. My heart thumped and I felt sick. My girlfriend, who had woken up from the screams and followed me to the bathroom burst in, looked at my penis and screamed.
Then, thankfully, I realized that I wasn't looking at chunks of torn skin. I had forgotten the toilet paper wrapped around my penis. It had soaked up the blood and hung down thick and heavy, looking like flaps of skin. I yelled "it's only paper, it's only paper" to calm down my girlfriend, and pulled it off. Still, underneath it my penis was torn and bleeding. Turns out, the seams from my circumcision had ripped when my girlfriend dry humped me. I had went to sleep without noticing. The tightly stuffed paper and pads had held back much of the bleeding, but still I had woken up to the bloodbath in my sheets. As I stood in the bathroom, the shorts and pads removed, blood dripped down from my penis at a steady rate, going drip drap drip drop and leaving a puddle of blood on the floor between my legs.
I yelled at my girlfriend to go home and let me take care of it, and went to get dressed to go to the hospital. Since I was in a hurry, I only threw on old pants and a shirt and some sandals.
I'm a European student in a big city, so it's not out of the ordinary for me not to have a car. I got on the next metro train en route to the hospital. Halfway through the ride, I catch a little girl staring at me and whispering something to her mom. The mom is looking at me, and quickly pulls her daughter away.
I look down and see that there's blood running out of the legs of my pants, all over my feet and into the sandals.
I only had to drive for two stations. Then I got off and had to walk the last 300 meters to the hospital. As I walked, more blood ran down my leg and made squishy sounds in my sandals. Some blood dropped onto the pavement. I left a trail of blood behind me on the sidewalk.
When I reached the ER, the nurse on duty was quite unphased. They let me wait a few anxious minutes. Then I was called into surgery. The doctor asked me whether there was anything unusual she should know. I told her that the last doctor had noted that my bleeding stopped unusually slow. She dismissed that tidbit and went on.
I had to go through the same horrible procedure that I was so glad about never having to go through again, again. They stuck a big needle into my penis, five times this time. They started to sew the torn skin under the head of my penis back together.
That's when the young doctor noticed what I had already told her: The bleeding was strong, and it wouldn't stop. She went on. Bleeding went on strong as ever. Blood flowing out of my penis all over it, and over her fingers.
Now she freaked out. She was like a junior doctor or something, an intern? resident? I don't know. She refused to go on with the surgery and used a phone to call for the chief of medicine (or chief resident or something) to take over. He was occupied with a heart surgery. Only after a while, she reluctantly went on with the procedure.
They finished up the sewing part and wrapped a bandage way too tight around my penis. (I was slightly incontinent for the next few days that I had to wear it).
They sent me home, again without painkillers, and again telling me not to have sex for another month. For the next week, the pain was worse this time around.
And when I had sex for the first time after the month was over, I was terrified that a seam would rip again every second through.
So there you go, that's my story. The moral of it: Treat your dick like porcelain, OP. Don't dry hump. Don't have sex earlier than advised. It could go horribly wrong. .
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TL;DR: looking down at my penis, seeing bloody chunks of skin hanging down from it, was an unpleasant experience.
That was absolutely fucking horrifying. Thank you.
Dear god if this is true you deserve an icecream or something.
I swear it's true. I already shared the same story on askreddit once, but didn't get many upvotes.
Probably because everyone who read it started crying.
Being the proud owner of a penis I laughed much harder at this post than I should have...
I feel like I'm going to pass out. FUCK. I feel like I should upvote you for the story but I want to protect other unsuspecting men
I applaud your sensibilities, "Beefmittens"
Not just an Ice Cream... A Klondike Bar.
Bet OP is scared shitless now....
The whole time I was reading this I had both hands on my face with an "OH GOD" type of expression
You're like the Rambo of penises.
Best compliment ever.
I almost cried
Each time felt like... well, a big needle being stuck into your penis. When they started cutting, I still felt a lot.
Would read again.
Why the FUCK were you messing around with a girl right after getting surgery there?
When I had this done I just stayed in bed for about 2 weeks. Couldn't move and definitely couldn't even think about girls, let along mess around and dry hump.
Absolutely terrifying.
Not trying to be an asshole, but wouldn't that be common sense that you don't want to get an erection in any way at all after a circumcision, for at least a month or two?
True. During that time, I definitely noticed how often you really get an unwanted erection during the day, as a man. As for the other times... well I felt like I shouldn't compromise on my affection for that girl. I ended up doing math equations in my head while kissing her to distract myself from getting aroused. Didn't quite work.
Sounds like you had a really horrible time.
I am not sure why they didn't give you painkillers for a few days because without painkillers you are really gonna suffer. My pain went away after the first few days unless I got an erection..
Between, I am not sure what you meant by sticking the needle into your penis. I was given a mild sedative with a drip before the process started and that helped me relax. If I remember, the way they anesthetize it is by giving you shots around the base of the penis. The first shot was painful, but by the time they gave me the third shot the anesthesia had already started working and I didn't feel pain for the third shot. You are right about actually feeling your skin being cut off as well as you can feel the suture being done. It wasn't painful for me for a while and then when the anesthesia started wearing off, I felt it a bit and I grunted and they gave me another shot. I slept for a few hours after that and woke up in a gown with a wrapped up penis. I was asked not to have sex for at least a month and unless you are sure you can handle it without causing trouble. I had some bleeding with morning erections during the healing process. Nothing alarming. I think the mistake you did was having sex or any kind of sexual activity which resulted in prolonged erection. This may not be actually the case for everyone who goes through the surgery. Just don't have sex, till your penis is ready for it.
aaaaaaaaaaaugh. I have fainted from blood loss once and when I read the part about being weak in the morning I knew what it was and started feeling light headed
edit: was it like the horse scene from godfather?
are... are you all ok now? Everything working fine?
I don't often struggle to get through graphic stories, but I just did. Wow. I probably would have passed out, had I been in that situation. Thank fuck I was cut at birth haha. You're a trooper.
Basically this.
I had to have this done when I was 13. I had the same condition.
Some advice: masturbate with two hands, one on the shaft, one rubbing the head with your palm. It's a whole new world.
Can't do that just yet - it's still very sensitive. But I will try this out, eventually. Thanks for the tip!
Thanks for the tip!
Oh, wow...
I've had the procedure at 19, with local anesthesia, it wasn't a fun time, especially walking the first week and the boners will hurt a shitton cause of the swelling etc, good luck!
Did you keep the skin?
Nope. It was thrown in a big bin, full of bits of people, and burnt.
Too bad, the foreskin fairy pays out a shitload if you put one under your pillow.
Really? Aw, nuts...
nah dude, foreskin..
It could have been used for eyelids!
Nope... they've tried it before, but the patients always come out cockeyed.
ಠ_ಠ
What was the pain like?
Before the procedure, it was sometimes excruciating.
During the op, I was completely knocked out, and the anesthetist injected some painkillers directly into the base of the shaft to stop too much pain straight after.
And the healing process was sometimes excruciating, but on the whole wasn't too bad (for me at least.)
anesthetist injected some painkillers directly into the base of the shaft to stop too much pain straight after.
That was still while you were knocked out, correct?
That is correct.
Hey all - Firstly, thanks for this AMA. I wanted to give another POV of my phimosos "success story". I'm 26 years old and until just over 6 months ago had no idea what phimosis was (thanks, reddit!) even though I've had it my entire life. Quite simply, nobody ever told me that I had to be pulling my foreskin back when I was younger. So I never did? I'm a very clean person and have never had any issue with reddness, swelling, discharge. I'm sexually active and I masturbate frequently.
But like I said, I had no idea I even had a "problem" (and I still don't consider it a problem). I went to a new physician for my last physical and he was the first person to really note it in any way. My penis looks almost like a circumsized penis, sans the slit in the glans because its under my foreskin. And obviously, no scar. I think most of my other doctors just never noticed it (for better or worse?) The doc simply said "ok, I'll just write you down as great genital health with a note that says foreskin not retractable". No other input at all.
I cannot retract my foreskin at all. After I've had sex or beat off recently, sometimes I'll be able to get the opening to maybe the size of a pencil eraser? At which point I can see the glans underneath. But never anything bigger than that. My current GF or past SO's have never really noticed or said anything. Occasionally when I'm on a 3 day hump session I'll get a little tender and get some little cuts near the head, but other than that, I have never had any sort of problem!
I'm mainly posting this to try and give the other guys with Phimosis another side of the story. I honestly had no idea I (we) were in such a minority. This has been such a non-issue my entire life that I never even thought twice about it before I came here and read up on it. I currently have no plans on being circumsized. Sex is great. Condoms are fine. My dick looks like, well, a dick. I'm sure people who have lived with it their entire lives are accustomed to it by now, and maybe your view is different if you are semi-retracted or having problems. But I'm content with what I have and just wanted share.
I dont' have proof, but if people seriously want, I'll write something on a sticky note and slap that bitch on my wang if you people really want (sickos). Cheers, Phimosis bretheren!
Phimosis occurs in less than 1% of males and is only ever a problem in very serious cases.
Most of the time it's treated simply with stretching the foreskin out over a number of weeks or a prescribed steroid cream.
I'm in a similar situation; I'll give you my story as well; if nothing else, it's cathartic for me!
First of all, I'm 32, and have a non-retractable foreskin. (Having read up on the issue subsequently, I have come to realize this was probably caused by me masturbating by "dry humping" the mattress during my formative teenage years, rather than utilizing the more traditional method. Hey-ho - you live and learn!
I suppose the first time I noticed there was a problem was when I lost my virginity at 16. That shit was painful, and awkward as a result. During the first few times I have sex, my foreskin would partially retract and get caught around my glans, either when I attempted penetration, or shortly afterwards. This was excruciatingly painful. At that point I did go to my doctor, who referred me to a specialist. The specialist, after examining me, recommended a circumcision. Actually, he didn't so much recommend a circumcision as insist it was the only solution -( I know now this wasn't true).
Remarkably, my 16-year-old self stood up for himself, and insisted that circumcision was not something I was going to do. I've always felt strongly that I wanted to keep my foreskin - I have no idea why. Perhaps because my glans has been sheathed my entire life, and it is just ridiculously hypersensitive. Anyway, I insisted I wasn't going to have a circumcision, and he insisted a circumcision was the only course of action he could recommend, so what ended up happening was..... nothing.
Pretty quickly, however, I got to realize I could have sex without experiencing pain. My first initial painful sexual experiences were essentially due to a combination of factors: inadequate lubrication, inadequate foreplay, and overenthusiastic youthful thrusting. Slowing things down a little, knowing my partner and knowing my own body, helped immensely, and sex became (and is still) a much more pleasurable experience. Over the years, things just got easier and easier, and things like quickies became a possibility.
For about 10 years I was in a long-term committed relationship, and enjoyed all kinds of sexual experiences without pain - oral, anal, vaginal - from quickies to marathon sessions - all with my foreskin firmly in place.
After the end of my long term relationship a few years ago, I suffered a bit of a crisis of confidence, as I suppose is usual after you have only have sex with the same person for a decade. I was worried about how new sexual partners would react to my unconventional cock, rather than any problems with pain. That was when I first properly googled the issue, learned all about phimosis, causes, and potential solutions. I contemplated using steroid cream and stretching my foreskin to enable it to retract properly, but eventually decided not to. I thought - why should I? I was used to it, and it was fully functional. Admittedly it was different to other cocks (especially porn cocks), but different doesn't always equal bad.
So, since then I have had numerous sexual partners (low double figures, if you must know), and it has never, I mean never, been a problem. I have had a few one night stands where there has been an "Oh, that's different" kind of response from my partner, or I've had to say "No need to do that" when they have gone to pull my foreskin back, but that's it!
As an aside, having seen and enjoyed a fair number of vaginas, it strikes me that there is a high amount of variety there. My ex had very small and non-protruding labia, but I've been with women with much larger and pronounced lips, or a very prominent clitoris and clitoral hood. What I'm saying is - women have a wide degree of variety and difference, and the ones I have slept with haven't made a big deal about my difference either!
So yeah; cocks are different. The more you know!
Oooooh - also, totally forgot to mention the best bit - epic cumshots! I don't know if this is common amongst all non-retractable foreskin folks, but when I come it is genuinely jet propelled due to my foreskin. I have genuinely hit ceilings and walls before. Awesome! ;o)
I'm 18 (and this is a throwaway account I made for some reason a while ago) and had the same operation last Thursday. I also had phimosis and my main issue was that as soon as I had to pee, I stank like pee for the rest of the day since it all got trapped in there. I'm forever alone so I have no idea even how sex with a foreskin would feel like.
I'm struggling through the healing process. It's horrible, it really is. I wake up every morning and see blood and I hate it. I'm wearing a mepitel and gauze dressing. Not only is the blood pretty unpleasant, but morning wood is way more painful than it needs to be. There's also a nice gathering of now hardened green... stuff and I'm not sure if it's just scabbing or infection.
I had one potential crisis when it came time to remove my original dressing and the stitches got caught. There was more blood than I wanted to see and I had to get down to the treatment centre (England! Free healthcare and drop-ins!) and get it sorted out.
I also now have to piss sitting down since it all just blasts out like a fucking water cannon in Birmingham.
So you're obviously further into the recovery than I am. If you were having the same water cannon issue, how long was it until you could stand up again and how long was it until you could safely keep the dressing off?
Given the discomfort I am starting to wonder why the hell I went through with it...
I've had the operation at about the same time as OP (it's been over a year now though) and I don't mean to scare you, but waking up to blood and hardened green stuff doesn't seem very normal to me.
I was fully recovered in at most 2 months, and yeah, during the first few weeks both morning wood and even peeing were painful as hell, although the stitches never burst. And I'm sorry to say that the water cannon issue never goes away... but in time you get used to it. Just point down or back away from the bowl and you'll be fine, though I've certainly come to appreciate urinals a lot more!
Before having the procedure I also had phimosis and (stupidly) avoided surgery for almost a year. Ever since I got cut my life (at least that subset of it) improved A LOT, so I'm sure you won't regret it. The only thing I regret is not being able to masturbate without lube anymore.
Sex with a foreskin feels fucking amazing, thought I don't know what its like when cut...
Thank you for posting this!!! How long was it until you had "normal" use again?
I'm still unable to have full blown sex at the moment, and the tip of the penis is VERY sensitive to any form of stimulation seeing as it was, you know, hiding away for 22 years.
However, after about 3 weeks, I masturbated for the first time since the procedure just by pumping the shaft. The resulting orgasm felt amazing... however, the morning after, I noticed that part of the wound had reopened, and I was in quite a lot of pain. This meant the healing process has taken a lot longer.
It'll feel normal in a few months. I think the de-sensistisation (of the head) took a few years for me.
That's good to know. Thank you :)
I had exactly the same thing and of course it always depends on the specific person but my penis passed the "my pants are uncomfortable"-phase about 3-4 months after the operation. I had sex after a little more than 3 weeks - that was too early...
Ouch, 3 weeks? Bet that was pretty uncomfortable. Thanks for the insight!
Welcome to the no nub club!
I assume by that comment you've been circumcised later in life and have experienced both sides. That said, where do you stand on the circumcision debate?
The OP had a medical condition that causes a great deal of discomfort, which the only resolution currently, is to circumcise.
It would be like asking someone who had testicular cancer in both balls how they felt about male sterilisation.
That's a good point, which is why I'm asking someone else who has apparently been circumcised later in life, and not the OP.
incorrect, surgery is not the only option
Depending on how severe the condition is. For borderline cases steroid creams can be very effective at loosening skin.
What circumcision debate?
Is removing the foreskin of an infant before he's had a chance to decide if he wants it:
Terribly barbaric mutilation against the baby's will with nominal medical benefits or
A harmless tradition, makes hygiene easier, makes aerodynamics better
But what it comes down to on reddit is: I'M NOT COMFORTABLE WITH MY PENIS UNLESS I CAN CONVINCE THE WORLD THAT MY PENIS IS THE RIGHT KIND OF PENIS.
Aerodynamics=win. Pulling over to the left while a flock of geese pass me honking and laughing was so annoying.
...should parents circumsize their children or not.
Absolutely not, they should let a doctor or rabbi do it.
I... see.
What's wrong with getting 'em snipped?
The opposition usually thinks that it should be the guy's own decision. I mean, it is his dick. I know a lot of men whose parents had them snipped for religious reasons, and they'd never have gotten it done if their parents hadn't had it done to them. I know I'd be furious if my parents decided I didn't need a part of my body when I was a baby.
As someone whose parents decided I didn't need my foreskin as a baby, all I can say is: I am glad they did and couldn't care less that "they made the decision for me."
Also, every girl I've asked has preferred cut to uncut. Also look at any poll in girlie magazines and you will find an overwhelming majority preferring cut.
A lot of people think that the foreskin is a super sensitive part of the penis and that removing it significantly decreases sensitivity.
However, everyone I've known who has gotten a procedure like this later in life has said that sensitivity went way up, not down, so this is complete bullshit. The OP and others who've had the procedure in this thread seem to agree completely.
My parents cut off part of my penis for no good reason. There was no medical reason, because I know how to wash my dick. There was no social reason, because I don't go around comparing my dick to my dad or guys in the locker room. There was no religious reason, because they aren't religious.
They just did it because it was the thing to do! A purely cultural reason because "everyone else does it!" Part of my penis is gone forever, I have a scar, I have reduced sensitivity, and I NEVER GOT TO CHOOSE.
It was WRONG for them to do that. Perhaps a couple of times a month I look at my penis and get angry at my parents. They made a decision that affects me in my most personal person for the rest of my life, and they would have needed a damn good reason, and they didn't have one.
The OP got circumcised for actual medical reasons. It isn't circumcision I have any problem with. It's doing it without consent without a damn good reason (and not all the bullshit reasons people only invent to justify a decision they have already made).
I mean, I don't think it's wrong to slice up a kid and remove their appendix, if it is inflamed, but what would you think about doing that just in case it became a problem later?
Anyway I hope this answers your question. But I doubt you'll find it convincing. You seem like you already made up your mind that it is no big deal. The more I try to say it IS a big deal, the more you'll write me off as a loon. But then again I could be entirely wrong about my assessment of you.
tagged as several times a month gets angry about his dick
I have reduced sensitivity
Yay assumptions!
It's a part you never had though. You say you have reduced sensitivity, but how do you even know that? Seriously, I don't even see how it could affect your life.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it. Or with removing the appendix for that matter. The fact that you've been so deeply hurt by that is unusual.
The idea is that it's an unnecessary medical procedure with no benefits done without consent and therefore unethical.
In the US there's a big social issue regarding whether or not babies should be circumcised.
I don't think it's as "big" an issue as it is on reddit. That said, I think it's important that it gets some attention because the argument that categorical circumcision is unethical is pretty strong.
:( sad about the delayed healing process. Prior to the procedure had the head of your penis never been fully out then?
Nope, never. When erect, only a very small part of the very top of my glans was visible, an area about 5-10mm across, maybe, and when flaccid (and on a good day) I could pull it back approx. 4-7mm. That would hurt an awful lot, though.
When flaccid (well depending on how flaccid) I can get mine all the way back, but when erect I can only get it about half way back. Could you give me any advice. I want to get it sorted out, but I'm a bit scared.
Try stretches, first of all. Some fellow sufferers have posted about their experiences with stretching elsewhere in the comments, so I suggest you read a couple of those comments.
And don't be scared; it'll be okay in the end!
i don't get it, why are you scared?
wow! that takes balls to talk about. Are you happy with the look of your penis now? Does it change your feelings about your penis at all?
I am very happy with the way it looks. The excess foreskin was, in my opinion, a real eyesore. And when fully erect, I thought it looked a bit weird. It is still healing, however, so there are some unsightly areas. It won't be fully healed (internal and external) for another 5 months.
In regards to changing my feelings about it... yes it has. I'm much more confident about the way it looks. And, so far, sexual interactions (and by that, I mean solo sexual interactions) feel much better.
This is good to hear. I'm 31 and still haven't taken care of my phimosis despite knowing about it and its consequences since puberty. Thanks for talking about this.
No worries, man. :)
Remember, there are a lot of options for dealing with it.
when fully erect, I thought it looked a bit weird.
For what it's worth, it looked weird because it was weird. (Weird in the abnormal sense, people.. phimosis looks weird. It does.)
Haha, true that.
"that takes balls to talk about"......
Oh man I had that done too after high-school about 8 years ago. If you have any questions I know where you're at!
The one thing I remember after the anesthesia began wearing off the day I had it done was pain so bad I couldn't even focus on browsing the internet!
It's weird - I didn't really have too much pain afterwards, and eventually, just stopped taking the pain medication unless I REALLY needed it. At first, I would wake up in the night in pain thanks to spontaneous erections, but the rest was fine.
Since you've had eight years to adjust, what would you say the difference between the two is in terms of sexual sensation?
Serious question. If you are uncircumcised and you draw a penis on someones forehead do you include the foreskin or draw a circumcised penis?
Not the OP but I am uncircumcised. It depends what mood I'm in. I'll often draw 'em cut because they're instantly recognizable that way, and much simpler to draw erect. I do sometimes go uncut, though.
I sometimes think I draw an unhealthy amount of dicks for a straight guy.
My boyfriend has an uncircumcised penis, it was the 1st one I had ever experienced but the sex is so good I don't ever want to go back to a circumcised one. Also, I sometimes like to pull back his foreskin (when flaccid) and pretend it's a turtle poking his head out of his shell. I like to make it talk and everything....my boyfriend hates this! Good luck to you!
this made me lol. but how does the foreskin make the sex feel better?
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I can't say. Have you tried retracting the foreskin when fully erect? If you have and it hurts, then there's a good chance it will hurt when having sex. And doe sit sometimes hurt when you masturbate?
However, there are people who have sex with phimosis and have just learnt to cope with it, but it does limit the speed they are able to do things, and the positions available.
When I tried, the girl was too tight for me, even with a condom on. I wasn't able to penetrate even a little bit, let alone the whole way.
It was very upsetting, 'cause I REALLY wanted to do her, y'know?
It depends on a few things. Some people suffer a lot worse than others. Sex puts a huge amount more strain on it than masturbation. I suffered from it quite badly and sex used to be very painful for me. Over time it has stretched naturally with use and I've found ways to cope with it better.
It depends a lot on the girl, the positions, lubrication (though i've rarely used actual lube) and the duration you are having sex for. Tighter girls will obviously stretch it more and cause discomfort faster, and the same for certain positions, though a lot of this can be fine as long as it's lubricated enough. You can learn quite quickly which positions are more comfortable and I'd imagine this is different for everyone. Changing positions frequently also helps a lot (and tbh is just more enjoyable in general anyway). Also, when natural lubrication dries up (e.g. for a period after a girl orgasms, or for whatever other reason :P) it's a good idea to stop penetrative sex. Carrying on will cause discomfort for both and extreme discomfort for you, and has on occasion caused enough stretching that I haven't been able to have sex for a day or two.
Drunk/drugged sex is generally awesome because you are desensitised a little, but chances are you'll hurt like hell the next morning.
I've found that having sexy daily/regularly will stretch it quite a lot and lead to more enjoyable sex, but extended periods without sex will cause it to contract back again.
If you are worried about it I'd recommend using lube first, as it will help a lot, and without a condom if it's an option. Sex without a condom can be shitty (relatively) because your glands are so covered up, and when you wear a condom the foreskin won't move very much. It's a bit like giving your dick an anaesthetic. :/
And always be honest and up front with it. Don't hide it if it is causing problems as it will just create anxiety and you won't be able to enjoy yourself. I used to think it was something to be embarrassed about but I started to be a lot more open about it and it removed a lot of anxiety I felt from it. I've never met a girl who thought it was weird/bad. Actually the opposite, they have always been extremely understanding and even interested to know more.
2 years ago I actually had a minor operation where they partially cut the frenulum to allow it to stretch more. I was given the option of a circumcision but decided against it and went for the more minor op. It helped a little for a while, and I guess it might be a little better now than it was before, but to be honest it's hard to tell. I'm not sure I'd recommend the operation but it obviously depends on the person, so your doctor would be the best judge. I've not ruled out getting a circumcision, but I'm still too apprehensive about it at the moment.
My thoughts after reading through the responses on this thread
I had mine done at 19 years of age. Same problem. I just tell people that my cock is so big that the skin couldn't keep up.
Spread the good word, my brother. ::freshlycutpenisbump::
If it wasn't for the phimosis, would you have gone forward with the procedure anyways?
No, I would not. It's well known that circumcision reduces sensitivity, and the huge number of nerves in foreskin that react to the movement and the stretching of the skin (apparently) make sex and masturbation much more enjoyable.
Thats what reddit says, but according to every iama I've seen of people who had it done as an adult sex feels more or less the same
Reddit is a bunch of guys trying to validate the state of their penis by convincing others its superior.
It really is pretty much the most important thing in the world for some of these people. I can safely say that in day to day life circumcision has come up 0 times for me. To normal, functional adults it's more or less a non issue....
I mean HURRRRR MUTILATION
No, I would not. It's well known that circumcision reduces sensitivity, and the huge number of nerves in foreskin that react to the movement and the stretching of the skin (apparently) make sex and masturbation much more enjoyable.
WTF!?!?! Fuck my parents! I was an infant! I didn't have any say in the matter! Fuck them!
This is actually a massive issue. There are a LOT of anti-infantile circumcision groups, and with good reason.
But on a more personal level, part of me wishes I'd had it done as an infant - that way, I wouldn't remember and it would've changed my life.
Also, don't be so quick to place the blame with your parents. It used to be a case of the surgeons actually recommending the procedure on babies in certain countries. And if your parents didn't know otherwise, they may have just gone along with the man in the white coat. Lots of people have - they're supposed to know what's best for you and your loved ones.
Some medical professionals would do more than just recommend it. I was born at home, and the hospital sent a nurse out to assist. My parents said they didn't want me circumcised, and when they were away from me for a minute the nurse tried to go ahead and cut me anyway! My dad caught her just in time. WTF.
This happened to me when I was born. From what I was told, my parents did not want me circumcised, but the doctor went ahead and did it anyway.
I am so pissed at the sensitivity I am missing out on, and while most of the nerves are gone, I have been in the process of restoring. I was luckily cut a bit loosely and still have a small bit of the frenulum, but my glans is de-sensitized, and has rougher, dryer skin. I hope to one day at least have moist skin on my glans, and much more sensitivity. When flaccid I am almost always completely covered now, and can pull the skin over the head very easily when hard, but it does not stay that way yet.
Hey, my foreskin doesn't retract as well. I'm 23 and still a virgin. Had you had sex before the surgery? Did it hurt? I've been wanting to get it done since a long time. I think I finally will this summer. EDIT: I never thought the procedure was this complected and it took that long to heal. I'm so fucked.
I was, and still am, a virgin. However, I did try to sleep with a girl. I talked about it in another reply:
However, there are people who have sex with phimosis and have just learnt to cope with it, but it does limit the speed they are able to do things, and the positions available. When I tried, the girl was too tight for me, even with a condom on. I wasn't able to penetrate even a little bit, let alone the whole way. It was very upsetting, 'cause I REALLY wanted to do her, y'know?
But, before you even thinkabout circumcision, look at alternatives and go to your doctor.
That sounds like my SO and I when we first began attempting sex. We were together for a year before ever trying anything. A few months before we started, he informed me that he had phimosis but that he was doing stretches to work on it. No such luck: it took us three months and a lot of grief to finally do the deed. After that, it was another four months or so before we could have sex without a condom.
Even now, a year later, he still occasionally has problems. If we have sex regularly enough (see: once every four days or so), there's no problem. But if we go a while without sex, it seems to tighten back up again and there's a 50/50 chance that it will hurt, leading to no actual sex being had. For what it's worth, he's stopped doing stretches since we started having sex -- something he admits he should be doing but doesn't because of laziness. If he started doing them again, I suspect it would be fine. His situation is much as yours was. Neither of us has seen anything beyond the very very tip of his penis. Sex positions can be limited if we don't have sex often: missionary seems most comfortable for him.
Protip to phimosis virgins: One of the things that helped us was pushing the foreskin forward before attempting insertion. Bunch it up while making a long upward stroke. It'll look weird, but for whatever reason, the extra padding seems to help.
It's not complicated, I had it done at 22. Didn't take long to heal, I was doing college exams during the healing process. Have been getting laid ever since ;)
Fuck the doctors!!!
Fuck everyone for fucking with my fucking!!!
When you have sex now or when you masturbate, do you think to yourself, "Man, that's very 'meh' - I don't know what all they hype is about. This isn't really enjoyable"?
Fuck them, indeed.
But remember; there's the old saying "You can't miss what you never had."
Who knows? Your life could be completely different if you hadn't been circumcised as an infant.
This is actually a massive issue. There are a LOT of anti-infantile circumcision groups, and with good reason.
The relevant subreddit is /r/Intactivists.
It still is recommended by some pediatricians. I'm having a son in a couple months, and we're having prenatal visits with pediatricians. I was kind of appalled that one of them tried to change my mind to circumcising my son. That was around the time I decided I wouldn't take my son there.
First of all, congratulations on your soon-to-be new arrival! :D
What arguments were they giving FOR the circumcision?
Thanks :) The main argument he used is that there is a higher risk of infection when one is uncircumcised, and that if it is medically indicated later in life, he will have to undergo general anesthesia. I'm not really sure how the second one is an argument for newborn circumcision, but that's what he said.
The higher risk of infection only counts when your son is not able to properly wash his genitals and allows the gunk to build up. The best argument for infantile circumcision is aesthetics. His privates will look similar to the other boys in the gym.
As far as cleaning, it will be my job to teach him how to be hygenic. The infection argument is laughable.
If aesthetic concerns is the best argument for circumcision, then there is no argument. I can't speak for others, but I know for sure that when I was in school, I did my absolute best to be private and not invade anyone else's privacy. Even if he notices a difference, it will be a good opportunity to teach him about making rational decisions based on facts .
my point about cleaning was indeed to show how the infection argument is laughable. there is obviously more situations where the aesthetics argument would apply. sexual partners may respond negatively considering especially in the USA infantile circumcision is so common.
but i agree, both arguments are hardly valid and should be minor concerns. they shouldn't at all be sufficient reason to remove a perfectly fine and healthy piece of the human body without having your son have a say in the matter.
The AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) doesn't recommend circumcision anymore unless for medical reasons like this case, and hasn't since 1999 (and even reaffirmed in 2005).
I don't care which way you go with your child, but it's good to know about it anyway since most American's think there are tons of benefits to it (even though there aren't many at all). Pediatrician's should know this though, since they're tested on it constantly.
So brave.
I don't know man if I agree with him. I'm uncircumcised and I have very little endurance when it comes to sex. I almost with my parents had cut me when I was young so that I would be able to keep going long enough to please my SO too!
I'm also uncut, and I went through that for the first few years of sex, feeling like I'm just never going to last long enough for the girl. For some people there are actual medical issues involved, but I don't think the foreskin is the cause. Now this is just my perspective here, but the only thing that really helped was trying my damnedest for a long time, building up tolerance to that nightmarishly good vagina feeling. I really felt it was mostly mental.
Where did you get that info? I think that's still pretty disputed, not only by people with religious motivation. As I said further up, I had to have the same operation with 25 (a year ago) because of phimosis and sex is actually better. I can last longer and it feels better, not much, but it's noticeable.
The foreskin is jam packed full of nerves, little sources of lubrication and just generally protects the head of the penis. Removing it means these nerves, lubricators and the protection is gone. At first, it's super sensitive, but, will (from what I've heard from others who have had it done) dull down.
There's a chance this information is used wrongly by those against circumcision, but there's still going to be a definite change in the sensation, if not a drop.
But the fact that it feels better for you gives me hope. Thanks for your post :D
Last time this came up it was pointed out that the keratinization of the head happens over a long period of time, and recent circumcisions don't give much perspective to the loss of sensitivity.
As long as I'm here, what's your favorite power ranger?
Yeah, I can believe that. It's SUPER sensitive at the moment (painfully so) and I'm actually looking forward to it losing a bit of said sensitivity.
And Red Ranger fo lyfe.
Were there any other options to this procedure?
how severe were the symptoms that required you to undergo the procedure?
There were other options, yes. The first method is usually the use of a steroid cream (0.05% betamethasone) and stretching exercises. But, unfortunately, the GP I used at the time was completely unaware of this treatment and had to Google it while I sat there, twiddling my thumbs. As a result, he gave me the incorrect instructions in regards to its usage, and it was ineffective after several weeks. Little did I know at the time, the cream usually takes about three months to work... The other options I know a little less about, thanks to lack of information from the wonderful health service over here.
Before having the procedure, I thought I had actually exhausted all of these options but to no avail. This was not the case.
The symptoms were very severe. I would often become sore, and the spontaneous boners that curse all young men would cause the foreskin to be tugged when wearing pants, often resulting in many winces and "oooh, aaaaah ssss...."s. When girls tried to give me hand/blow jobs, they would often end up hurting me quite badly. It made both parties feel bad, and was a real mood killer. And I'm not gonna even talk about vaginal sex... it never happened because of how much it hurt.
Bad times.
I'm going to cut to the chase. If you had to do it again, would you?
If I was in exactly the same situation as before, yes.
Before clicking verification Hm..Better check proof. After checking proof Um..Yep. That is male genitalia.
I warned you, bro.
I can't believe I'm spending time reading about some other dude's penis.
What has happened to me?
You're one of the few men in the world who can legitimately give an opinion on what is better. Cut or uncut!
FEEL PROUD MY BOY.
That being said, as an uncut guy with a fairly normal penis I would never opt for circumcision. It just.. It's my peep you know?
Did you feel any sort of, I don't know, reservations about the procedure on a pure emotional level? I understand being worried about a loss of sensitivity, or how it'll look but that's not what I mean. The idea of cutting my foreskin off seems almost psychologically damaging to me. I'd never want that. You know?
Or, conversely, did you really resent your foreskin because of your condition? I can totally understand that as well.
Thanks for the AMA!
Haha, I'm not sure if that is an entirely good thing :P
Personally, I didn't feel any sort of attachment or resentment towards the foreskin. It was there, now it isn't. That's all. Although, I did say goodbye to it, haha. I think the fact that I knew I NEEDED to get it done if I wanted a healthy sex life helped an awful lot.
And thank you for taking the time to comment.
Not really, since when he was uncut he had a medical issue and it wouldn't retract as its supposed to...
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Has your vision improved significantly now that you had it removed?
It's nice to know I have other options besides contact lenses or glasses.
You had the most sensitive part of your penis removed because you/your partner didn't like how it looked?
I don't know that he can give an unbiased opinion since his foreskin never retracted fully. He didn't experience normal sex as an uncut man.
I was being facetious. Making light of a serious situation. He laughed. Mission accomplished. So. Yeah.
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shoutout to /r/circumcision
it's real.
They're a real bunch of cut-ups!
congrats dude i had mine done march last year when i was 22 at the time i was living in germany got it done in hannover it was really uncomfortable for the first couple of weeks but my advice take like 2 salted baths a day and i mean really smash the salt in there it speeds the healing tenfold(may sound painfull but its not) 10 months on and it feels great, sex is so much better!!!
Ouch... sorry dude... I love my foreskin... All naturale.
This is the only kind of circumcision that should be legal.
Why is everyone cheering simply for the circumcision? He had it done to correct his phimosis, not because he thought that foreskin was evil like you fucking nutcases.
So what's the surgery like? Were you conscious during? If so, did you watch? How long did it take, and was it something you could walk away from immediately after?
The surgery is, as far as I know, very quick. There are three different types of circumcision (low, medium and high.) I had a low cut.
I was knocked out for the procedure - applying local anesthetic to such a sensitive area could cause irreparable damage to the nerve endings, literally removing all sensation in my groin.
It took about 45 minutes to an hour, I think. But as I said, I was unconscious.
And about an hour or two after waking up, I was allowed to go home. It was a day procedure.
I remember my father getting me a circumcision in an Indonesian hospital when I was 5, they used local anaesthetic and I was scarred for life, watching them cut away at little Fernando.
QUESTIONS!!!!
- How long did the procedure take?
- How long until recovery? That means you can wear pants and go out do stuff.
I guess my main concerns are just how much downtime to expect, since I have the same freaking problem.
OH. And before you go through with circumcision, ask about alternatives! There's a steroid cream that you apply inside and outside the foreskin and stretch it at the same time. It takes about 3 months, but is successful in 80 - 90% of cases.
ANSWERS!!!!
- I was unconscious for the procedure, but if I remember correctly, it took about 45 - 60 minutes. However, I was in hospital for something like 8 - 9 hours, so it requires a full day.
- It's different for each person - some people are back at work within a week, me, I'm still off. But there have been complications with my healing process that prevent me from going back to my very physically demanding job. Saying that, I was able to wear tight boxers (loose ones rub too much) and walk around relatively comfortably after about three weeks. I'm unable to run, though.
I had Phimosis, and from what you have said mine was similarly as bad as yours, however I was able to help it by stretching the skin.
Did you try this method?
Are you glad your parents gave you the decision to be circumsised? If you have children will you circumsise them?
Thanks for the post. What did you try before you decided on circumcision? Anything medical?
I have two sons, neither of which is circumcised. The younger son's foreskin is just fine. My older son, a six-year old, has phimosis. Nothing of his head would come through the foreskin and his foreskin ballooned when he urinated. Several physicians told us nothing could be done, while friends outside the US told us we could likely treat it.
We finally found a local pediatric urologist who prescribed triamcinolone acetonide ointment. Apparently it is used in Europe to loosen the foreskin. Sure enough after two months his foreskin loosened enough he could uncomfortably retract it.
Has anyone else had success with a medical non-surgery remedy? I really would prefer not to have him circumcised but there is a polarized difference of opinion in the medical community outside the US versus in the US.
6 years is too early to diagnose phimosis.
http://www.drmomma.org/2011/06/ballooning-in-intact-child.html
I wonder if Phimosis is the original reason behind what became the religious ritual of circumcision. If Phimosis was causing problems for some number of men, and if it wasn't possible to determine which male newborns would have the phimosis, then circucision of all males as infants would be a possible solution. Perhaps it started with that reason, and then was adopted by religion to the point where the original reason was lost. Now that it is becoming more acceptable to forgo infant circumcision, we will surely be seeing more phimosis manifesting in adult males. I u sed to be 100% anti-circumcision due to the seemlingly arbitrary nature of the procedure and the pain to the infant, not to mention taking his choice away, but now learning about phimosis, I wonder if the procedure might be warranted on infants if it were known they would have phimosis...
Just throwing in my 2 cents into the circumcision debate that's probably raging in this thread: From what I've read through various studies, I feel like the physiological difference between being cut and uncut isn't very big. After reading studies of people being circumcised in adulthood, results of people who were happier/less happy after circumcision were about 50/50, which to me pretty much spells out that there probably isn't a huge difference either way when it comes to feeling sensations and that it's mostly about preferences. I've read a study about people being less likely to contract HIV when they are cut, but that study was done in Africa, where large segments of the population can't go to school and germ theory isn't very well known- it's actually not unheard of to think that having sex with a virgin will cure you of HIV (one of the reasons child rape is so high). So telling someone in the study who was circumcised "Hey, don't get your penis dirty or it will get infected" may actually have a large effect by introducing germ theory to someone who didn't know about it before. I find the study to be kind of inconclusive. Also, STD rates between America (mostly cut) and Europe (mostly uncut) are pretty much identical.
That being said, men care about their penises. Like, a lot. And if they perceive something as wrong with it, they can obsess about it easily. If a man has a foreskin and there's something wrong with it, or they don't like it, they can cut it off. However, if a man doesn't like his cut status, he's kind of screwed. I'm not too fond of the fact that I'm circumcised, I think uncut is aesthetically more pleasing, but I'm not fooling myself into thinking that any sexual problems I have stem from a lack of foreskin.
To me, circumcision is body modification like tattoos and piercings. Like tattoos and piercings, people should do it to themselves if they want it, but it shouldn't be forced on others. Tattooing a baby or child doesn't have any negative physiological effects, but it's still WRONG because it's the child's body and they should be able to do what they want with it when they are of an age to decide for themselves. Conversely, what if there were a chemical that you could inject into your baby, that would dissolve tattoos, making it impossible for your child to ever get tattoos, all on the basis of 'some managers don't like tattoos, so I'll just stop that now." ? I find that wrong, ethically. People shouldn't permanently alter other people's bodies like that.
Finally, people tend to like whatever they are around. Some women in America don't like uncut ("anteater dick"), but I know of some european women who don't like cut ("frankendick"). With circumcision rates approaching 50% in many states (as in, less and less people are circumcising their children), your kid will have plenty of company if you leave them intact, and you reduce the odds of them being permanently unhappy about their penis.
tl;dr: If you are cut, or you are uncut, there is nothing wrong with you. But being cut or uncut should be YOUR CHOICE. Not someone else's.
- Did it hurt?
- How much did it cost?
- Whats the difference now (sex life).
Nice cock bro.
About 3 years ago when I was 24, I had what is called Phimosis, only had a small hole in my foreskin that I could pee thru at the top. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phimosis
I prefer having be cut then uncut.
Correction: you had a condition known as Pinhole Phimosis, which is rather rare, and definitely a justification for circumcision.
I had the procedure done a year ago... And ever since I've definitely masturbated less. My sex drive appears to have disappeared. I hope you don't get this problem- it sucks :(
I was circumcised at birth, so I've never known what it feels like to have an uncircumcised penis. As a man who's known both worlds, do you have any insight about the differences?
Unfortunately, due to my condition before the procedure, I cannot give you a perfect answer.
However, I will try my best.
In terms of the everyday, in tight underwear, both uncut and cut have uncomfortable moments, most notably when there is a drastic shift in placement, or one of those oh-so wonderful spontaneous boners. As the sensitivity in the head goes down, however, this should become less of an issue.
For urination, before, the foreskin actually restricted my flow. I thought I simply had a weak bladder or something, but it wasn't the case. Now, I flow freely and healthily.
Masturbation is different. I'm still unable to use the head as is, but that will come with time. Ignoring the occasional uncomfortable moment that comes with the ongoing healing process, I would have to say that, so far, it feels much better cut... for me, at any rate. However, for when the sensitivity dissipates... I can't say confidently whether it will feel better or worse.
For aesthetics, that's entirely dependent upon the person viewing. Some people prefer uncut, some prefer cut. Me, I hated the way my foreskin looked and much prefer it now.
On the whole, I prefer being cut. And there's no going back now, anyway. Haha.
Thanks for your question.
So how big is your flaccid unit
I've honestly never measured it flaccid. And it depends a lot on the temperature.
But it's distinctly unimpressive. Thank heavens I'm a grower, not a shower.
I don't know why I clicked on the picture, but I did. And then I clicked on it again just to be sure.
http://i.imgur.com/Gioar.png
Just a correction, for accuracy.
this is exactly what I thought of even before i clicked the link to your penis.
"clicked the link to your penis" should be a song title. here is my attempt at lyrics...
"When you clicked the link to my penis, you clicked the link to my heart.
and when you mounted my hard drive, I knew we'd never part"
I was scared at first to visit this link, but then I realized it was probably what it is and I am not disappointed.
I'm supposed to do that.
I don't know what I expected
... click ...
I don't know what I expected.
Everybody's on to Dog Party now. You have to have bluetube.
Been there. Done it. It was funny walking around the house with legs separated while the whole family kinda smiled at you and some older aunts wondering why did he? and what is wrong? I think phymosis is inherited genetically because my dad had the same problem and so did my son (possibly). We can debate on whether a parent should or should not, but I relieved my little one from the burden of doing it when he is an adult. Wait till it starts healing and becomes really dry. If you are not able to masturbate then of course you are more horny and "horny" is not what you wanna be when you have a healing penis with stitches all around. The morning boner used to kill me for a few days and yes a few times there was bleeding. Imagine, finding blood in your bed sheet and like, oh this thing made me a woman and I am having periods now. Have fun. You are liberated now.
Forgot to add, the one time I went to change the wound dressing.. saw heaven and most of the gods from most of the religions up close. But, the adults who have the condition and is worried about doing it, do what Nike says. well, worth it.
The way you post has left me bewildered. Such an odd cadence to your writing. I was surprised.
I thought the same thing. But I'd like to add I was surprised in a good way.
I can relate to this. Had it done aged 17 and the worst bit was the stinging with an erection, morning wood and when the bleeding dried and fused your penis to your underwear...stand up and RIIPPP! Arrrrggghhhhh!
how did you know your son had phymosis if you cut him?
DO NOT GOOGLE PHIMOSIS!
I wasn't about to, but then reverse psychology kicked in...
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Haha I did not click the link..
why do I keep clicking of links to dick, this is the third time this post!
i did... D: